- 1 I feel close to him.
- 2 he is very near and dear to her.
-- 1 She can't get close to him.
-- 2 He keeps everyone at arms length.
-- 3 He distances himself.
Change Toward Emotional Intimacy Is Movement Toward Physical Closeness
-- 1 We're moving closer.
-- 2 We're coming together.
-- 3 We're closer than we were before.
Note:
-- 1 Babies bond to their mothers.
-- 2 from marriage ceremony, "..these two are joined as one... they are joined in matrimony"
-- 3 Those two lovebirds are inseparable.
-- 4 There's been a coming together.
-- 5 They've developed an attachment.
-- 1 We're drifting apart.
-- 2 They've moved away from each other emotionally.
-- 3 He runs away at the first sign of intimacy.
-- 1 We talk and talk, but I can't seem to reach him.
-- 2 We connect.
-- 3 He got to her.
-- 4 I think I'm making contact with him.
-- 5 I'm touched.
-- 6 He touched her with the expensive gift.
Note: overlapping source domain. This metaphor has also been called INTIMACY IS ATTACHMENT.
-- 1 He tickles her pink with his remarks.
-- 2 He makes my skin crawl.
-- 3 He rubs her the wrong way. (involves also People are Animals metaphor)
-- 4 Her T-shirt said "Handle with Care".
-- 5 He doesn't know how to handle her.
-- 6 He has to be handled with kid gloves.
-- 7 He doesn't feel anything so you really have to shake him.
-- 8 His comment hit Joe right where it hurts.
Avoiding Emotional Effect Is Avoiding Contact
-- 1 He wraps himself in armor.
-- 2 He shields himself from any experiences.
-- 3 He won't let anyone get near him.
Inclinations Toward Intimacy Are Forces Toward Closeness
-- 1 I was drawn to him.
-- 2 They are attracted to each other.
Note: .nfThe grounding for the sense of touch to be connected withcloseness, subjectivity, intimacy, and emotion is suggested inSweetser 1989 to be:a)Touch requires physical contactb)Touch responses are subjectivec)Touching between people assumes a level of intimacy.d)Pain and Pleasure connect touch with the emotions. The IMAGE of closeness in this metaphor is that of peoplestanding face to face (or perhaps side by side). We would notexpect people to have the image of two people standing closebut back to back when interpreting "The two of them are very close emotionally." The same source domain of touching used in m5: EmotionalIntimacy is Established by physical contact, can also be used on the target domain of communication, withno intimacy necessarily implied:Communication:1 He's out of touch with everyone.2 She's in touch with him.3 I can't reach him by telephone.4 We've been out of contact for years.The ambiguity thusfound in "I reached him". or "We connected" is tolerated; but manyof the source domain phrases are specific to one interpretation or theother: "He touched me" cannot mean that he got in touch with me, andlikewise "He got in touch with me" is unambiguous.It is not clear how exactly these two mappings are related.Are they part of a larger mapping (they are not unrelated--establishing communication and establishing emotional intimacy)or are they to be viewed as two separate metaphors? What is NOT MAPPED in Emotional Intimacy is Physical Closeness: Many absolute measurements: *We are a few feet apart, but we're getting closer. *He moved away several yards after we hadn't seen eachother for a few days. (Although we CAN say: We are worlds/a universe apart.) Some kinds of manner of contact: *She pulls my hair out with her nailbiting. *He scratches her with his cutting remarks. *He bites everyone with his comments. Place of touching other than heart, soul or skin (the latter cannot be made explicit) He touches my heart, my soul. He rubs me the wrong way. He tickles me. (In these presumably the skin surface is mapped) *He touches my arm, but nowhere else. *He touches my mind, my brain. This failure to map results from the fact that our emotions are understood to be in our heart or soul, and not in any body part. Thus, in order for the metaphor to make reference to the effect on the emotions, only the seat of the emotions can be explicitly effected..fi
Closeness is also the source domain for metaphors of similarity, solidarity, compromise, agreement, and support.
Adele Goldberg